Why Are Some People More Confident Than Others?

Want our secret to self confidence? 

We don’t have one!!  We wish we did! We definitely don’t feel confident all the time, sometimes we feel quite the opposite. We don’t have the answer to being confident. But what we do know is this: confidence looks and feels different for everyone. And some days you have it and other days you don’t and that’s ok.

 

But why are some people more confident than others? Is it how we were raised? The people we grew up around? The life experiences? Is confidence something you're born with, or something you build? We don’t know!!?  

For some, confidence is walking into a room full of strangers and feeling totally at ease. For others, it’s having the courage to try something new, even when there’s the fear of failure. Sometimes, confidence is simply showing up — when it would be easier to hide.

We’ve come to believe that confidence doesn’t always have to start from within. Sometimes, it’s sparked by the people around us. When you’re surrounded by those who uplift you, who remind you what you’re capable of, who celebrate your wins (big and small), something shifts. You start to believe in yourself a little more. You start to say “maybe I can” instead of “I definitely can’t.” Do you ever feel that when you talk to some people you feel good, confident and at ease? While talking to others you lose your words, feel small or uncomfortable? Surround yourself with the people that make you feel good. 

For us, confidence meant daring to believe we could do something different. It meant walking away from secure careers to turn a love of craft into something real — something that could support our families, fuel our creativity, and connect us with a community of like-minded people. That leap? It took more than just planning or preparation. It took self-belief — and a lot of it.

But let’s be honest: confidence doesn’t mean fear disappears. We still get anxious. We worry, we worry a lot sometimes. Imposter syndrome visits more often than we’d like. There are days when we ask ourselves, “Who are we to be doing this?” But confidence isn’t the absence of doubt. It’s the decision to keep going anyway.

Our downfall? We say yes too often. We try to do it all. We’re the “I can” people. Sometimes that works beautifully. Sometimes, it leaves us exhausted. But that inner voice — the one that says, “You’ve got this” — has carried us through.

So, How Do You Grow in Confidence?

If you’re feeling like confidence is something other people have and you don’t, here’s the truth: it’s not a fixed trait — it’s a skill. And like any skill, it can be built. Gently. Slowly. Quietly.

Here are a few things that have helped us (and might help you too):

Start with small wins. Confidence builds through action. You don’t have to take a giant leap — just take one small step. Try something new. Finish a task you’ve been putting off. Speak up, even if your voice shakes.

Surround yourself with encouragers. Confidence often grows in community. Spend time with people who believe in you, who listen without judgment, and who make you feel more you — not less.

Speak kindly to yourself. That inner critic? We all have one. But what if you spoke to yourself like you would to your best friend? Gently. With love. With belief. It changes everything.

Celebrate progress, not perfection. Confidence doesn’t come from doing everything perfectly. It comes from noticing how far you’ve come, even when you’re still on the way.

Let fear come along for the ride. Being scared doesn’t mean you’re not confident. It just means you’re human. Confidence is saying, “I’m afraid — but I’m doing it anyway.”

Confidence, we’ve learned, isn’t about being loud or bold or fearless. It’s about backing yourself — even when your voice shakes. It’s about believing you’re capable of growth, of change, of something more.

If you’re dreaming of doing something different — something creative, something outside the lines — we think you should go for it. And if confidence feels far away, start small. Start with people who lift you up. Start with a whisper of self-belief. You never know where it might take you.